This article demonstrates how reactions may lead to negative self-esteem. A method post-traumatic adaptation help: construct an adequate conceptual framework about the functioning of the human psyche and adjust one’s mental state to account for past traumas.
For finding your own power you need to come through that. This means to give your unconditional love to yourself, defend yourself from indifferent moral judgement, and comfort yourself in this horrible sadness. It is the only way for finding your power.